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That is is not going to get any better. I have ppl keep asking are you better do you feel better? There is no getting better. That is the hard part. I have never had this before even with my asthma and emphysema I had no mucus or cough only with an infection.

My family just don't understand it at all. They think I can keep doing what I used to do and its hard even for myself to not be able to do what i used to do. For example the grands had a field and track today. There mom kept asking me if I was coming. I never missed one ever. Even my own kids. No I can't do it. Its along walk to the bleachers and also the wind was bad today. I don't know if they don't want to accept it and can't accept that I have gotten worse. It does cause anxiety for myself not being able to do what they want and what I used to do.

Latest Activity: June 2, 2017
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K

I try to explain it to them but I really don't think they listen. I post any new bronchiectasis news out to a group for bronchiectasis on FB. There are many ppl with this and say they have it but don't explain what they do for it or how they are treated.

Being a advocate on Bronchiectasis just as you would asthma or copd.

Latest Activity: May 17, 2016
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G

Thanks for sharing Kandy! I agree that we must be our number 1 advocate for all things in life. I think it is important to understanding to share information, in order for others to gain understanding. It is difficult to understand without knowledge. Marie Curie claimed "Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less." I tend to agree.

Latest Activity: May 18, 2016
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K

So true Gretchen.

Latest Activity: May 18, 2016
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K

I am in an apartment and every time I see the guy next door he asks how I am. I really getting tired of answering him. I told him its not going to get any better but here we go the next time. What can I do to get him to quit any ideas?? Don't know if its a concern or just something to say.

Latest Activity: June 8, 2016
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@Kandy I worked with a woman who thought "how are you?" was the most silly way to start a conversation. When someone would ask, she always said "Outstanding!!" even when she was obviously sick as a dog.

Latest Activity: June 8, 2016
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K

Good come back will have to try that!!

Latest Activity: August 3, 2016
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K

Yes ppl ask how I am when out in public places and I just say "ok" its it caring or just conversation? My story is to long to really say how I am!! haha

Latest Activity: June 2, 2017
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m

In the past, when someone asked me about my sickness, I oftenly said to them that I have "cough", instead of having bronchiectasis. It's not really hard to tell other people about the irreversible damage and widening of the airways, and also the mucus accumulation. For me the hard thing is to make people understand about the "bad news" of bronchiectasis.

I failed to make my family understand that bronchiectasis is a chronic disease. My family still believe that there are some ways to repair the damage; that it actually can be cured (not now guys!). My family also still don't understand about my cough, why my cough can't be stopped (my cough will be gone when... my life comes to an end lol). Yeah I know this misunderstanding is happened because the doctors were not able to give firm explanation and understanding to them.

But don't give up to tell and explain others about our condition. If other people want to listen, they will understand about what we are telling. Even if they don't understand about the disease or our struggle, the one that listened to us will give their empathy.

I'm so agree on Gretchen too, when we don't fear and accept the disease, it can be really freeing!

Latest Activity: May 19, 2016
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G

Thank you for sharing. It can be difficult to be honest about things such as this. Many people listen only to respond and not to understand. Empathy is key in any relationship. I appreciate your motivation and unwillingness to give up. At the end of the day we all have to find inner peace and happiness for ourselves, no matter the circumstances.

Latest Activity: May 19, 2016
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m

Thank you so much Gretchen.

Latest Activity: May 19, 2016
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B

Heck, I am still holding out for a stem cell regeneration of our lung tissue. They do lung transplants don't they? But I am also reconciled (it took a long time!) to a lifetime condition.

I just told my family and friends that I have permanent lung damage due to 2 bouts of pneumonia that were very severe, and the bronchiectasis followed that. Which was true, though it took a while for the reality of this to even set in for me. I am super active, and not used to thinking of myself as disabled in anyway. I still don't feel that, though I am definitely at times.

I let them know that there would be times I would be miserable , especially during coughing, when I feel that death would be better than coughing for another 45 minutes. And I would complain about it, but they didn't need to do anything but be sympathetic, (and take over doing the dishes late at night. Coughing is exhausting aerobic exercise.)

But in between I would be fine, though not running marathons. My husband knows, that in San Francisco, I would be slow uphill. He is great about it.
I am now very sensitive to respiratory particles....a reactive airway disease....(even rubber in the tire store, outgassing)...and I explain I have allergies. I apologize in advance to my friends and social contacts that I might have coughing episodes at times, but I was "fine". This seems to work. Family and best friends know enough to just let me cough, and acquaintances tolerate it.

Latest Activity: August 2, 2016
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K

Breathe Free the stem cells are along ways away not sure be our generation. A century or more I expect. Transplants your best bet of anything.

Latest Activity: August 3, 2016
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M

I have NTM and bronchiectasis. Very difficult to explain to others (my primary care physician has never seen anyone with NTM). I find myself telling others I have asthma. Agree that others may feel the damage is reversible. Staying active and positive is most important.

Latest Activity: May 19, 2016
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G

For those who responded, or those who would like to chime in and share, what would you most want your family or friends to understand about these diseases-what is most important to you? It is difficult to grasp something you have never experienced before. Would it be what you deal with on a daily basis, anxiety surrounding it, or something else?

Latest Activity: May 20, 2016
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K

That is is not going to get any better. I have ppl keep asking are you better do you feel better? There is no getting better. That is the hard part. I have never had this before even with my asthma and emphysema I had no mucus or cough only with an infection.

My family just don't understand it at all. They think I can keep doing what I used to do and its hard even for myself to not be able to do what i used to do. For example the grands had a field and track today. There mom kept asking me if I was coming. I never missed one ever. Even my own kids. No I can't do it. Its along walk to the bleachers and also the wind was bad today. I don't know if they don't want to accept it and can't accept that I have gotten worse. It does cause anxiety for myself not being able to do what they want and what I used to do.

Latest Activity: May 21, 2016
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C

I have bronchiectasis and on heavy duty antibotics.Doesn't seem to be working. Was in Hospital 2 weeks ago.I'm single and live alone and wander what my path is for the future.Have 2 grown sons and I don't believe they understand how bad things are.Thanks for many caring people on here!!

Latest Activity: May 21, 2016
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K

Cat what antibiotics do you take? I am on 250 mg of zpak. I wish he would go to 500 mg for that. I am asking next time I see him. No pred but doubled the pulmicort in neb to 2 vials 2 times a day said better steroid that way than prednisone. I still think I need a little boost daily well see what he says. Cant do any cpap bipap due to blebs in the lungs. So no trilogy either.

Latest Activity: June 8, 2016
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@Cat 62 You are not alone, though it feels that way. You can educate yourself here, and learn what your options are. Right now you are on antibiotics which make you feel crummy anyway. Try not to focus on dark futures, but on the fact that today you are fortunate enough to get antibiotics which will get things under control, eventually. It is an adjustment period and process, and you can't hurry it. Each of us is uniquely different and will work out a way to live with this. When you can't breathe well, it is scary, and you need support. Do you have friends, other family, and or a therapist or behavioral health counselor? Sometimes just getting through the day. Is the best we can do. πŸ™πŸΌπŸŒΊ. Best wishes and prayers...

Latest Activity: August 2, 2016
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K

Cat62 its hard for our families to understand it. I have a daughter RN she does as she in the medical field but its not discussed in the family how I am or unless they do when I am not around of which I doubt. . Our support groups are where we tend to get comfort as we all understand what each of us go thru. I hope you get to feeling better. Is there some organization you can join to get to meet ppl? Is there a Better Breathers in your area or a copd support group? Can you join a pulmonary rehab to exercise we meet ppl that way too.

Latest Activity: August 3, 2016
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Trying to explain the "not going to get any better" part has been the hardest thing for my family to grasp. I have tried to explain to them about my daughter's health in regards to Bronchiectasis, even printed the literature for them but they don't get it. They just look at her and say she looks normal and she will grow out of this. The anxiety and depression and anger I, mother/caregiver, feel about trying to make people understand the disease is enormous.

Latest Activity: May 30, 2017
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It was hard to explain to friends and family before I was put on supplemental oxygen this past January. I looked normal, I just couldn't keep up. Trying to explain how important it was for me to avoid catching a cold was impossible. "You can't live your life cooped up all winter," was a common response. I often just went along and said nothing, hoping for the best. If they thought I was winded because I was out of shape, so be it.

The oxygen tank makes it easier. Now I actually LOOK sick. I can say, "I have a lung disease," and that's usually all that's needed.

Latest Activity: June 8, 2016
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K

Merry, I know what you mean on the oxygen. I started in 97 so am so used to it like part of my body. My one gf said if you use it your going to get addicted!! Can you believe that one? Well down right to it I guess we are addicted to its a medication we need. We are small town and everyone is used to seeing me with it. I am lucky got a daughter who is a RN is a lot of help to me for asking things. Two daughters with asthma her and a sister.

Latest Activity: June 8, 2016
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M

@Kandy Haha! Yep, we're all addicted and the withdrawal process is murder! ;-) You're so lucky to have a nurse in the family, Kandy. My mom is a retired RN and she's our go-to for all kinds of questions, though this pulmonary stuff has caused even her to go out and search the internet for info.

Latest Activity: June 8, 2016
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K

yes, I refer to NTM as another "invisible " disorder for many patients who look plans do not carry any visible d m e or visible sign of the disorder. Often, people think we are not motivated, lazy, depressed when we are just unable to function the way we wish that we could , especially when we are experiencing a flare up

Latest Activity: June 16, 2016
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